Relationships, Love & Dating

When Your Parents Hate the One You Love
Can it be true love when your parents are against it? How to cope when your parents don't like the person you love.

Is It Ever OK to be Jealous? 
Is it ever ok to be jealous? Is jealousy always a wasted emotion or are there times where it is actually a healthy response? Find out.

Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater?
Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater? Will people who cheat in one relationship cheat in the next? Why do people cheat? Can cheaters be changed?

Surviving the First Fight
A closer look at where the honeymoon ends and the relationship begins. Why first fights don't have to be the end.

Am I in Love?
Am I in Love? How to Know if You're Really in Love

3 Things That Only Feel Like Love
You think you’re in love, but are you really? Here are three feelings people commonly mistake for love.

5 Things Your Boyfriend Won’t Tell You
A look at the 5 secrets every boyfriend keeps from his girlfriend.

5 Things Your Girlfriend Won't Tell You
A look at the 5 secrets every girlfriend keeps from her boyfriend.

Is Your Crush the One?
Here are some sure fire signs that your affair of the heart has reached true love status.

What's Your Dating Style?
What is your D.Q. (dating quotient)? Are you suave or niave? What kind of date do you make? Take this quiz, get answers fast. From Teen Advice

Five Different Types of Mr. Rights
Which of these five guys are you dating? Teen Advice looks at the five different types of Mr. Rights. Just where does your guy fit in? Part 1 of 2.

More Mr. Rights
Which of these five guys are you dating? Teen Advice looks at the five different types of Mr. Rights. Just where does your guy fit in? Part 2 of 2.

Can You Make Someone Love You?
Unreturned love is one of the hardest things a teen has to face. Get advice on how to deal with a one-sided love affair and how to get over it when a romantic relationship is not an option.

Love is Blind... But Parents Aren't!
What do you do when your parents do not approve of the person you love? Get helpful advice on how to deal with the most common reasons parents object to who you date.

Different Ages, Different Stages
She's still in high school, he's starting out in the adult world. She's thinking prom dress, he's talking wedding gown. Is she wrong to want out? An honest answer to a difficult question.

What's Your Line?
Got lines? Pick up lines that is! We have lots of them on the Teen Advice board. Some are gems, others are first rate corn. Get a sampling and add your own to the growing list.

He Never Calls
What do you do when your once chatty boyfriend turns in to the strong silent type? Does it mean he wants out of the relationship, or does it mean he has comfortably settled in? A look at this very common situation.

Why Do Guys Wait to Call?
A look at why so many guys stick to the wait 3 days to call rule.

Why Do Guys Take Your Number but Not Call?
Teen Advice. Why do guys do that? A closer look at why guys do and say the things that they do; your four most pressing dilemmas de-mystified. Problem 2: He got my number and never called, what’s up?

Why Are Guys Sweet in Private and Cold in Person?
Teen Advice. Why do guys do that? A closer look at why guys do and say the things that they do; your four most pressing dilemmas de-mystified. Problem 3: He is so nice in private, via text/e-mail or on instant messaging but when I see him with his friends he ignores me, explain!

Why Do Guys Change from Day to Day?
A closer look at why guys do and say the things that they do; your four most pressing dilemmas de-mystified. Problem 4: Why does he say such sweet things to me one day only to act the total opposite the next day?

Can You Become Friends After the Break-up?
Can you become friends after the break-up? A look at the pros and cons of forging a friendship with a former flame, including steps you can take to make it happen.

Can Guys and Girls be Just Friends?
We Asked, You Answered… Can guys and girls be just friends? Real teens tell you what they think.

Friends of the Opposite Sex
A look at opposite sex friendships. Can guys and girls be "just friends?"

Ask the Love Lady: You Cheated, Should you Confess?
You cheated… Should you come clean? The Love Lady looks at the touchy topic of cheating and confession.

Cheating: Are You the Other Love? 
Cheating, are you the other love? 10 signs that you may be helping somebody cheat.

Before You Make That Date
A list of things to think about before you make a date.

Summer Love or Summer Fling?
Teens and summer romances, can it last, is it lust or love, and what counts as cheating on a steady back home?

Summer Fling or the Real Thing?
You've done it now - fallen for that guy or girl you met while away even though you knew you'd be heading home at the end of the vacation. Now what? Should you just say "so long", or try a long-distance romance?

A Smart Girls Guide to Winning Back Your Guy
You've loved and lost but can you get love back? A step-by-step guide to winning back your man.

Holiday Heartbreak: Surviving Valentine’s Day Without the One You Love
Holiday Heartbreak: Surviving Valentine’s Day without the one you love whether you wanted the break up or not.

Ask the Love Lady: My Best Friend Stole my Girl
What do you do when your ex and your best friend start dating? Do you dump them both or stick it out? Helpful advice.

Abusive Relationships: How to Avoid Them
Research has shown that 36 to 50 percent of American women will be abused in their lifetime. Find out what you can do to avoid becoming part of this grim statistic.

My Story: Teen Love IS True Love
A first person feature by Mandy Pandy, a 16 year old girl who believes that first love can be the real deal. Read her story and find out why the common belief that teens are too young to know what real love is only sells real relationships short.

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Coping with suicidal thoughts

In the meantime, the following suggestions can help get you through until you feel ready to talk to someone:

• There is ALWAYS another solution, even if you can’t see it right now. Many kids who have attempted suicide (and survived) say that they did it because they mistakenly felt there was no other solution to a problem they were experiencing. At the time, they could not see another way out, but in truth, they didn’t really want to die. Remember that no matter how horribly you feel, these emotions will pass.
• Having thoughts of hurting yourself or others does not make you a bad person. Depression can make you think and feel things that are out of character. No one should judge you or condemn you for these feelings if you are brave enough to talk about them.
• If your feelings are uncontrollable, tell yourself to wait 24 hours before you take any action. This can give you time to really think things through and give yourself some distance from the strong emotions that are plaguing you. During this 24-hour period, try to talk to someone—anyone—as long as they are not another suicidal or depressed person. Call a hotline or talk to a friend. What do you have to lose?
• If you’re afraid you can’t control yourself, make sure you are never alone. Even if you can’t verbalize your feelings, just stay in public places, hang out with friends or family members, or go to a movie—anything to keep from being by yourself and in danger.
• Above all, do not do anything that could result in permanent damage or death to yourself or others. Remember, suicide is a "permanent solution to a temporary problem." Help is available. All you need to do is take that first step and reach out.

Talking to an adult you trust about teen depression

It may seem like there’s no way your parents will be able to help, especially if they are always nagging you or getting angry about your behavior. The truth is, parents hate to see their kids hurting. They may feel frustrated because they don’t understand what is going on with you or know how to help.
Many parents don’t know enough about depression to recognize it in their own kids, so it may be up to you to educate them. You can refer them to this site, or look for further information online. Letting your parents know that you are feeling depressed will probably motivate them to get you the help you need.
If your parents are abusive in any way, or if they have problems of their own that makes it difficult for them to take care of you, find another adult you trust (such as a relative, teacher, counselor, or coach). This person can either help you approach your parents, or direct you toward the support you need. If you truly don’t have anyone you can talk to, refer to our resources at the end of this article. There are many hotlines, services, and support groups that can help.
No matter what, talk to someone, especially if you are having any thoughts of harming yourself or others. Asking for help is the bravest thing you can do, and the first step on your way to feeling better.

The importance of accepting and sharing your feelings

It can be hard to open up about how you’re feeling—especially when you’re feeling depressed, hopeless, ashamed, or worthless.
It’s important to remember that everyone struggles with feelings like these at one time or another. They don’t mean you’re weak, fundamentally flawed, or no good. Accepting your feelings and opening up about them with someone you trust will help you feel less alone.
No matter what it feels like, people love and care about you, and if you can muster the courage to talk about your depression, it can—and will—be resolved. Some people think that talking about sad feelings will make them worse, but the opposite is almost always true. It is very helpful to share your worries with someone who will listen and care. They don't need to be able to "fix" you; they just need to be good listeners.

What you can do to feel better: Tips for depressed teens

Depression is not your fault, and you didn’t do anything to cause it. However, you do have some control over feeling better. Staying connected to friends and family, making healthy lifestyle decisions, and keeping stress under control can all have a hugely positive impact on your mood.
In the meantime, you might need therapy or medication to help you while you sort out your feelings. Look into your treatment options with your parents. If medication is being considered, do your research before making a decision, as some antidepressants used for adults can actually make teens feel worse.

Beating depression, one day at a time

You can’t beat depression through sheer willpower, but you do have some control—even if your depression is severe and stubbornly persistent. The key to depression recovery is to start with a few small goals and slowly build from there. Read Dealing with Depression

Try not to isolate yourself

When you’re depressed, you may not feel like seeing anybody or doing anything. Just getting out of bed in the morning can be difficult, but isolating yourself only makes depression worse. Make it a point to stay social, even if that’s the last thing you want to do. As you get out into the world, you may find yourself feeling better.
Spend time with friends, especially those who are active, upbeat, and make you feel good about yourself. Avoid hanging out with those who abuse drugs or alcohol, get you into trouble, or who make you feel insecure. It’s also a good idea to limit the time you spend playing video games or surfing online.

Keep your body healthy

Making healthy lifestyle choices can do wonders for your mood. Things like diet and exercise have been shown to help depression. Ever heard of a "runners high"? Exercising releases a rush of endorphins, which makes you feel instantly happier. You actually get a rush of endorphins from exercising, which makes you feel instantly happier. Physical activity can be as effective as medications or therapy for depression, so get involved in sports, ride your bike, or take a dance class. Any activity helps! Even a short walk can be beneficial.
As for food, an improper diet can make you feel sluggish and tired, which worsens depression symptoms. Your body needs vitamins and minerals such as iron and B-vitamins. Make sure you’re feeding your mind with plenty of fruits, vegetables, and whole grains. Talk to your parents, doctor or school nurse about how to ensure your diet is adequately nutritious.

Avoid alcohol and drugs

You may be tempted to drink or use drugs in an effort to escape from your feelings and get a "mood boost," even if just for a short time. However, substance use can not only make depression worse, but can cause you to become depressed in the first place. Alcohol and drug use can also increase suicidal feelings. In short, drinking and taking drugs will make you feel worse—not better—in the long run.
If you’re addicted to alcohol or drugs, seek help. You will need special treatment for your substance problem on top of whatever treatment you’re receiving for your depression.

Ask for help if you’re stressed

Stress and worry can take a big toll, even leading to depression. Talk to a teacher or school counselor if exams or classes seem overwhelming. Likewise, if you have a health concern you feel you can’t talk to your parents about—such as a pregnancy scare or drug problem—seek medical attention at a clinic or see a doctor. A health professional can help you approach your parents (if that is required) and guide you toward appropriate treatment.
If you’re dealing with relationship, friendship, or family problems, talk to an adult you trust. Your school may have a counselor you can go to for help, or you may want to ask your parents to make an appointment for you to see a therapist.

Helping a depressed friend

Depressed teens typically rely on their friends more than their parents or other adults in their lives, so you may find yourself in the position of being the first—or only—person that they talk to about their feelings. While this might seem like a huge responsibility, there are many things you can do to help.

• Get your friend to talk to you. Starting a conversation about depression can be daunting, but you can say something simple: "You seem like you are really down, and not yourself. I really want to help you. Is there anything I can do?"
• Know that your friend doesn’t expect you to have the answers. Your friend probably just needs someone to listen and be supportive. By listening and responding in a non-judgmental and reassuring manner, you are helping in a major way.
• Encourage your friend to get help. Urge your depressed friend to talk to a parent, teacher, or counselor. It might be scary for your friend to admit to an authority figure that there is a problem. Having you there might help, so offer to go along for support.
• Stick with your friend through the hard times. Depression can make people do and say things that are hurtful or strange. But your friend is going through a very difficult time, so try not to take it personally. Once your friend gets help, he or she will go back to being the person you know and love. In the meantime, make sure you have other friends or family taking care of you. Your feelings are important and need to be respected, too.
• Speak up if your friend is suicidal. If your friend is joking or talking about suicide, giving possessions away, or saying goodbye, tell a trusted adult immediately. Your only responsibility at this point is to get your friend help, and get it fast. Even if you promised not to tell, your friend needs your help. It’s better to have a friend who is temporarily angry at you than one who is no longer alive.

Signs and symptoms of teen depression

It's hard to put into words how depression feels, and people experience it differently. There are, however, some common problems and symptoms that teens with depression experience.

You constantly feel irritable, sad, or angry. Nothing seems fun anymore, and you just don’t see the point of trying. You feel bad about yourself—worthless, guilty, or just "wrong" in some way You sleep too much or not enough. You have frequent, unexplained headaches or other physical problems.

Anything and everything makes you cry. You’ve gained or lost weight without consciously trying to. You just can’t concentrate. Your grades may be plummeting because of it. You feel helpless and hopeless . You’re thinking about death or suicide. (If this is true, talk to someone right away!)

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Healing a Broken Heart

There's no question that breakups can be painful, and that it's difficult to trust and love again. But there are ways to get past the pain. Here is some of Dr. Phil's advice for healing the heartbreak:

In time, it is absolutely vital to put the pain behind you and move forward with your life and love. Otherwise, you are giving away your power to the people who hurt you.

Sometimes the relationship you need to rescue is the one with yourself. Moving past a breakup is about you, not your ex.

Don't start thinking about being friends right away — if ever. You have to be your own friend first.

Grief is a process to go through, not a destination in which to wallow. In a process, you keep putting one foot in front of the other, and each little step is part of your healing.

Define your real intentions. Are you trying to move past the breakup, or are you hoping to get back with your ex? You won't move on until you've accepted that the relationship is over.

Be careful about the language you use. When you use catastrophic terms like "nightmare," "terrible," and "horrible," you're bound to spend time dwelling on the negative. Focus on what you can do.

Sometimes you can't get over being hurt until you know you've been heard. Give yourself permission to express your anger and sadness.

Don't embarrass yourself or put yourself in a situation where you'll look back and feel humiliated. Driving past your ex's house, making dozens of phone calls or e-mailing non-stop is no way to let go of the past or come out with your head high.

Learn to trust again. Whenever you get involved in a relationship, you know there's a risk. Don't let a bad experience keep you from living your life to the fullest. You can go through life suspicious, or loving and laughing.

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Boy Advice - Top 10 Things Girls Do That Drive Guys Crazy

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1. Change your mind about how you feel toward him.
Monday he's the guy of your dreams. Wednesday you've decided the new guy in your maths class is the guy for you. By Friday, you've forgotten Mr. Monday's name...

2: Compare yourself to other girls.
If a guy is interested in you, he's not going to want to listen to you rattle on about how popular your best friend is or how your sister is the prettiest member of your family.

3. Base your opinions on what he thinks.
He wants to know your views on the recent school elections. Before you respond, you try to ferret out what he thinks.

4. Forget about plans you've made with him.
If you make plans to see him or call him at a specific time, don't drop the ball. If you forget, he's going to feel ignored and unimportant.
5. Sell yourself short.
You've just aced a test or made the winning point for the team you're on. When he congratulates you on a job well done, you brush it off as no big deal or give the credit to others.

6. Obsess about your weight.
He orders a mega-burger with a large order of fries and a chocolate milkshake. While picking at your green salad, no dressing, you talk about fat grams and lament about how you really want to lose weight.

7. Pretend to not know something.
You're playing Trivial Pursuit with him. You know the answer, but you decide to play dumb. There's behaviour that qualifies as dumb and then there's behaviour that qualifies as dumber. Guess which category this stunt falls into?

8. Leave all the decision-making about dates up to him.
He's tapped out for ideas. Your brilliant suggestion? "I don't know." Hello! Wake up and read the paper! Check out the movie listings and offer an idea or two. He's your date, not your personal social planner.

9. Act rude toward others.
The waitress brings you something you didn't order. You tell her she screwed up and want to talk to the manager. Slow down! Walking all over other people in an attempt to impress him isn't going to score you any points.

10. Refuse to laugh at yourself.
Your mum decides to show him some of your baby photos and you respond by stomping out of the living room in a huff? Chill out. The ability to laugh at yourself shows that you've got confidence, which is one of the most attractive qualities around. So, get some confidence ...he'll be crazy about you!