This is how...

This is how you lose her.

   You lose her when you forget to remember the little things that mean the world to her: the sincerity in a stranger’s voice during a trip to the grocery, the delight of finding something lost or forgotten like a sticker from when she was five, the selflessness of a child giving a part of his meal to another, the scent of new books in the store, the surprise short but honest notes she tucks in her journal and others you could only see if you look closely.

   You must remember when she forgets.

   You lose her when you don’t notice that she notices everything about you: your use of the proper punctuation that tells her continuation rather than finality, your silence when you’re about to ask a question but you think anything you’re about to say to her would be silly, your mindless humming when it is too quiet, your handwriting when you sign your name in blank sheets of paper, your muted laughter when you are trying to be polite, and more and more of what you are, which you don’t even know about yourself, because she pays attention.

   She remembers when you forget.

   You lose her for every second you make her feel less and less of the  beauty that she is. When you make her feel that she is replaceable. She wants to feel cherished. When you make her feel that you are fleeting. She wants you to stay. When you make her feel inadequate. She wants to know that she is enough and she does not need to change for you, nor for anyone else because she is she and she is beautiful, kind and good.

   You must learn her.

   You must know the reason why she is silent. You must trace her weakest spots. You must write to her. You must remind her that you are there. You must know how long it takes for her to give up. You must be there to hold her when she is about to.

   You must love her because many have tried and failed. And she wants to know that she is worthy to be loved, that she is worthy to be kept.

   And, this is how you keep her.

No matter what it is that you are going through keep holding on. This is only going to make you stronger. I know at times it might seem that it will never get better but I promise you it does. Never ever give up. Look for the positive in the situation because there is a reason you are going through this. Maybe it could be you are going through this so that you can help others who are going through the same thing? Or maybe this is what you need to go through to help push or motivate you to be a better person. Stay strong and know that you are an overcomer and will come out of this a better person, a champion and stronger! 

Never trust the advice of a man in difficulties.

It is very difficult to live among people you love and hold back from offering them advice

People who ask our advice almost never take it. Yet we should never refuse to give it, upon request, for it often helps us to see our own way more clearly

Ask advice only of your equals.

Please give me some good advice in your next letter. I promise not to follow it.

Don't give advice. It will come back and bite you in the [butt]. Don't take anyone's advice. So, my advice to you is to be true to yourself and everything will be fine

Write down the advice of him who loves you, though you like it not at present.

Advice is what we ask for when we already know the answer but wish we didn't.

Good advice is something a man gives when he is too old to set a bad example.

Hello, beautiful!  Today, I’d like to give some advice on destiny, I suppose.  I’m not really sure of what to call it.  Anyhoo, I don’t really get how the background of the image going along with this post relates to changing your mind, but that’s alright, and like it says, it’s okay to change your mind!  You always have time to rethink your choices and try something new!  No one can make your choices except for you, so you can choose to do whatever you want!  Unless, of course, it’s illegal, but that’s a given.  Whether it be your career path or your relationship, you make your own choices, and you can always rethink it and change your mind.

I’m terribly sorry for this being so short, but I’ll try to back soon!